Quotes about dating the wrong people
A good partnership is not so much one between two healthy people (there aren’t many of these on the planet), it’s one between two demented people who have had the skill or luck to find a non-threatening conscious accommodation between their relative insanities.The very idea that we might not be too difficult as people should set off alarm bells in any prospective partner.A standard question on any early dinner date should be quite simply: ‘And how are you mad?’The problem is that knowledge of our own neuroses is not at all easy to come by.We can say straight off that they occur with appalling ease and regularity.Academic achievement and career success seem to provide no vaccines.
An urgent, primary task of any lover is therefore to get a handle on the specific ways in which they are mad.
Otherwise intelligent people daily and blithely make the move.
Given that it is about the single costliest mistake any of us can make (it places rather large burdens on the state, employers and the next generation too), there would seem to be few issues more important than that of marrying intelligently.
It can take years and situations we have had no experience of.
Prior to marriage, we’re rarely involved in dynamics that properly hold up a mirror to our disturbances.