Dating filipina lady strict
Traditionally, a Filipino woman is "shy and secretive" about her feelings for a suitor.
On the other hand, the Filipino man fears rejection by a woman and would like to avoid losing face and embarrassment.
The teasing is done by peers or friends of the couple being matched.
The teasing practice assists in discerning the actual feelings of the male and the female involved.
In the past, particularly in a rural courtship setting, a Filipino man, accompanied by friends, would engage in serenading the woman he adores at night.
This serenading practice was an influence adopted by the Filipinos from the Spaniards.
Apart from presents, the Cebuano version of the pamamanhikan includes bringing in musicians.
After the girlfriend-boyfriend stage, engagement, and marriage follows.
With regards to the engagement and pre-marriage stages, Filipino tradition dictates that the man and his parents perform the pamamanhikan (literally, a Tagalog word that means "to go up the stairs of the house" of the girlfriend and her parents; pamamanhikan is known as tampa or danon to the Ilocanos, as pasaguli to the Palaweños, and as kapamalai to the Maranaos and blessings from her parents in order to marry.
During the courtship process, a traditional Filipina is expected to play "hard to get", to act as if not interested, to be not flirty, and show utmost restraint, modesty, shyness, good upbringing, be well-mannered, demure, and reserved despite having great feelings for her admirer; a behavior culturally considered appropriate while being courted.
This behavior serves as a tool in measuring the admirer's sincerity and seriousness.