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And so, authorities were highly suspicious of the first women who did. In the 1910s, the Bedford Hills Reformatory, an institution in New York founded rehabilitate female “delinquents,” was full of women who had been locked up for dating. (Then, as now, the police often used suspicions of sex work as a pretext to harass poor and minority populations.) These women were not necessarily promising sex to the men who had invited them out, and certainly not for cash.
They only promised a few hours of their time and attention.
And in these cities, women were going to work in public.
Women who would have toiled as slaves or domestic servants or housewives if they had been born a decade earlier were finding jobs in factories and shops and restaurants.
When I was in middle school in the 1990s, it was cybersex.
Throw in a few titillating observations from people who seem like authorities on the scene—Nancy Jo Sales cites the 28-year-old “fetching, tattooed owner” of an East Village Sake bar, who says that, “Men in this town have a serious case of pussy affluenza”—add vague quotes from a handful of academics—“we are in uncharted territory,” one researcher from the Kinsey Institute at the University of Indiana attests—and voilà! When half a dozen friends and relatives emailed me “The Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse” last Friday, I struggled to get through it.
I have spent the past two years researching a book on the history of dating, which has meant two years reading countless versions of exactly this kind of article.
As long as young people have gone out and done things they call “dating,” older people have struggled to keep up with their exploits.
And writer after writer has made a living out of chronicling them with a mix of prurience and outrage.